How do you define yours?
An authentic you starts with realizing and aligning with your core values.
Authenticity means to be true to one’s character. It is about sharing your uniqueness with the world and living genuinely.
Presenting yourself authentically, especially in authority positions, can be a challenge at times. If you’re questioning your authenticity the answer can reside in how deeply you’re aligned with your core values.
When you live according to your principles, an authentic YOU emerges.
From time to time, it can be good practice to assess the principles we adhere to. This helps us preclude the challenge of conflicting values.
For instance, you value financial freedom and want to start your own business yet you also value quality time with your family. Starting a business could conflict with spending more time with your family.
Or, you value quality “me” time and desire to be more mindful. However, your favorite way to decompress after a hard day is watching TV or playing Candy Crush. See the conflict?
You value freedom and fulfillment, yet you work so hard to achieve it that you burn out instead. Thus, you never reach your intended goal.
Living authentically starts when you take the time to assess your core values. Only then is it possible to integrate your actions with your values. So what happens when your core values conflict? How do you fully express your authenticity? How do you choose your path?
Start by acknowledging the conflict that arises within…
Symptoms of conflicting core values
When these conflicts occur, you’ll find yourself uncertain as to which direction to take. This can result in paralysis and failure to take any action at all.
It’s difficult to convey your wishes when your values are conflicting. If you’re communicating two opposing desires, the message will be unclear and others are likely to misunderstand.
You’re being pulled in opposing directions and attempting to satisfy more than one outcome simultaneously. The result can be chaos and overwhelm.
Your mind becomes a place of anxiety, doubt, stress and overload because you can’t decide which action is most authentic. Your constant questioning can bring up a lot of unfavorable emotions.
The occurrence of any of these symptoms may be the result of conflicting values. Changing the way you look at your ‘conflicting values’ releases associated stress and allows you to gain a more positive outlook. Adapting insight to your core values and how they affect your actions helps you grow into your authentic YOU.
Here are two steps to help you overcome conflicting values…
Step 1: Make sure your values serve you needs
The first step in eliminating internal conflict between opposing values is deciding whether or not any of these values serve you. Take a look at your needs and desires. How does each value benefit you? If you’re not holding onto a value to assist your self-development, it’s probably not one worth keeping. Remember that your values shape your authenticity and an authentic you paves the way for self-growth and inner power. If the value doesn’t reflect that, then it’s not cultivating your authenticity.
Step 2: Change the mindset and let one help the other
Most likely if you have two conflicting values, they are conflicting because you truly want both. Eliminating one may seem impossible.
Step 2 is all about your outlook and transforming your mindset to help one value assist the other. Let’s say you want to save some money. The value of supporting yourself financially is important to you. However you seek this value because you want to buy the things you desire, which creates a conflict between saving and spending.
What if you opened your mind to a different outlook on this ‘conflicting set of values’? These opposing objectives could support each other. You could adjust your budget allowing for both saving and spending simultaneously. Find the balance of planning your financial resources – save some for later while enjoying some now.
When you choose to look at one value as supporting the next, you eliminate the conflict. This change of mindset will free you of stress and self-doubt, because it will allow you to move towards mindfulness and clarity. With a clear mind, you’ll be able to experience more authentic decisions that support growth.
An authentic YOU starts with deep insight into your core values. When you’re feeling any sort of self-doubt, overwhelm, or stress, it might be a sign that your core values are conflicting. Start moving towards your authentic Self by extinguishing this internal conflict. Make sure your values serve your needs, then change your mindset to let these values support your personal growth.
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Live Your Legacy and Fulfillment Will Follow
How do you want to be remembered?
You’re a driven woman who has a desire to accomplish a lot in this life — a high achiever. As a high achiever, you want to leave your mark on the world.
Your legacy is your pride and joy.
A legacy represents how you share your gifts with others. It’s the contributions you make during your lifetime. Your legacy is defined by the impact you make on humanity and the world. Yet there’s more to a legacy.
More than leaving your mark on the world, a legacy is about living with purpose. By defining how you want to make your impact, you bring your purpose into being. When you choose to experience your greatest desires, purpose provides an abundance of joy and fulfillment.
Think of how you want to be remembered and the essence you seek to embody in your life and beyond. How will that affect others?
Having both purpose and passion in your life can lead you to your legacy.
For example, a passion for the earth could lead you to start a conservation program in your community. Or a passion for cooking could lead you to pass down a book of recipes to your children. Your legacy will take shape through your passion and purpose.
And although a legacy is about leaving an imprint when you’re gone, it is more importantly about experiencing joy and fulfillment as you choose to live your purpose.
Define Your Legacy
Start to define your legacy by working backwards. Start by imagining your 70-year-old Self and then answer the following questions as if you were your 70-year-old-self.
Where are you?
Did you relocate to the tropics to live on a beach? Or did you stay in your hometown, close to the things and people you are familiar with? A clear picture of where you end up might help you to see your end goal and how to reach it.
Who are you with?
Family, a partner, or maybe on your own. The legacy you pursue will shape the connections you make with others. If you pursue a career that has you traveling throughout the world and you’re comfortable being independent, the legacy you seek will most likely involve solitude at an elderly age. On the other hand, maybe your family is your legacy and you picture yourself surrounded by them at age 70.
Or maybe you’ve become a zoophilist and your legacy has given you the opportunity to remain with the pets you’ve loved and cared for over the years. The companionship you’ve imagined yourself with will help you put in perspective the legacy you want to leave.
What are you doing?
I know women who are still happily working at 70-years-old and those who are joyfully retired. Perhaps you imagine yourself still working in your later years, continuing your passion for as long as possible. Or, perhaps the contrary. At 70 you’d like to be done with work completely, feeling satisfied with your efforts from years of dedication. Either way, think of the activities you’d also like to experience. Almost all of us have a bucket list. Are you taking action towards fulfilling yours?
How are you feeling?
To visualize yourself feeling joy at 70 can be a powerful manifestation. Relate back to my previous article Visualization For Greater Clarity: Aligning with Your True Desires for a deeper understanding of the power of manifestation. Imagine the emotions you desire to experience. Do you feel loved? Powerful? Relaxed? These emotions will remind you of the legacy you’re creating.
Working backwards by imagining your future self is a great exercise to help you define your legacy. Hold onto that image.
Obstacles that might keep you from living your legacy
Lack of focus
You’re not lacking in drive. However, are you focusing your energy in the right areas? Make sure you’re taking care of yourself first, so you keep your energy up. When you keep your energy up and invest it in the right areas, you can feel more fulfillment while moving towards your legacy. Visualizing your legacy will also help you maintain focus as you work towards your goals.
Sometimes life can feel like a race against yourself. Slow down. Take time for yourself. A legacy is about living the life you want to live, thus feeling that sense of fulfillment. That can’t happen if you’re not pausing to take care of yourself. Acknowledge and celebrate the moments of success before moving on to your next project or goal.
Letting others tell you what you “should” be doing
Disconnect from expectations. This is your journey, your life, and your legacy. Avoid the opinions and assumptions of others. Stay true to yourself. Meditation, yoga, reading, or journaling are all great examples of actions you can take to help you stay connected to your true Self.
What’s Your Legacy?
A legacy is about enjoying fulfillment as you move towards your life’s purpose. Keep your end goal in mind. Visualize your 70-year-old self and the above questions: where, who, what and how. They will guide you to find your purpose and live a life that moves you towards your legacy. Download my FREE gift What’s Your Legacy? 5 Ways To Leave Your Imprint On The World and clarify the legacy you wish to leave.
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Reinvent Yourself: New Season, New You
“The secret of change is to focus all of your energy, not on fighting the old, but on building the new.” – Socrates
Many times we perceive change as an obstacle to overcome, and we resist it. Yet this is what makes change stressful, because what we resist tends to persist. Instead, when we can view change as an opportunity and embrace it, we find that it creates more ease and gives us something to look forward to.
Since reinventing yourself is a type of change, your mindset will influence whether it feels like a struggle or enjoyable.
In my previous article, you identified a stirring within and recognized a restlessness nudging you towards a life change.
And now a golden opportunity has presented itself — the seasons have changed. Autumn has arrived!
Although I now live in Florida, I’m originally from New York state. So I love the natural changes autumn presents: a visual evolution of the leaves’ colors, tactile depth as we pull on sweaters and jackets, a sense of nesting as we spend more time indoors.
As the air begins to chill and the seasons change, it’s natural to feel inspired to transform your Self as well. Let the new season be your catalyst for change.
Reinvention allows you to refocus your direction and make the changes your soul desires.
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Now that you’ve decided to step into change, what’s NEXT?
New season, New You – Reinvention can:
1. Focus your mind
When you work on something new, your mind becomes more attentive to this purpose. Reinvention will compel you to focus on the changes needed to accomplish the desired outcome.
2. Increase joyfulness
You make changes to feel more fulfilled. Increased joyfulness follows this greater sense of fulfillment, as you work towards a new version of your Self.
3. Alter your direction
When you have clear aspirations and goals, discovering how to reach them is key. A reinvention will help you find the best path to get there.
Though you’re already successful and thriving, you can still benefit from a reinvention.
To get started on your journey of reinvention, first answer some questions that will give you a better idea of how you want to change. They will guide you to align with your most authentic self.
Questions To Ask Yourself
What are the biggest changes you want to see?
There can be many elements about yourself that you want to reinvent. From your appearance to your circumstances and most importantly your inner values. The first step for reinvention is identifying where you want to see change. As you identify the change you want, make sure you think about your options. Evaluate them all before making a decision. Common reinventions are reflected through: a career change, a new relationship, change of location, or even internal re-wiring to create your new persona with new values. Allow yourself to be creative and envision the changes that could transform you.
Why do you want to make these changes?
Come back to your core values and question your reasons behind this change. Are you making this change for yourself? Will this change move you closer to your ultimate goal? Think about your values before taking action and making the change. They will align you in the right direction for this transformation.
How do you feel about making these changes?
This question may stir up some emotion. Once you recognize your emotions, you can begin to understand and accept them. Maybe you’re hesitant to make a change because you think it might not turn out the way you imagine it? Or perhaps you are confusing nervousness with excitement? Determine whether you’re concerned about the outcome, and consider how you might shift your mindset to excitement to attain the transformation you desire. Eliminate the outside dialog of others. Look within and ask yourself how this will make YOU feel, not how others will feel.
How can you make these changes?
You may not necessarily be thinking of the small steps you can take. Start by researching and asking questions about the groundwork that’s involved before you move forward with your reinvention.
When can you start?
There can be some hesitation before starting your reinvention. I encourage you to start as soon as you have the groundwork in place. Reinvention is about developing the change you want to see, and it starts with a single action step.
Now that you have the answers to begin your reinvention journey…
Here are 5 tips to help you get started:
1. Don’t follow the rules
Embrace your individuality. You don’t have to abide by typical conventions—isn’t that the point? Time to bend the rules and expand beyond barriers. Create practices that compliment your new style.
2. Make new connections
Your friends and colleagues can either be a negative influence or a great source of wisdom. Choose carefully who you surround yourself with. The most supportive connections can lead to new ideas and opportunities that bode well with your reinvention.
3. Listen to trusted confidantes
Ask their opinions and take the time to reflect on their thoughts. You can learn a lot about yourself from other people’s perspectives.
4. Sit quietly with yourself
Notice your thoughts and emotions during your quiet alone time. You’ll get a better sense of who you are when you allow yourself time to just be.
Show your gratitude! Gratitude for your past self, future self, and the changes you’re embracing. When you truly feel gratitude, you experience a greater overall sense of positivity, which is an incentive for change. This expanded positivity encourages your journey of reinvention, and allows you a sense of being in the right place at the right time. Show gratitude to those around you as well. Your reinvention will be a more positive experience if the people around you feel appreciated.
In this new season, create a more evolved version of yourself with a reinvention. No matter how big or small the transformation, it can spark joy back into your life. Claim your FREE gift 10 Ways To Ignite Powerful Passion In Your Life and learn how to:
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Remember that change is inevitable, and embracing reinvention can transform your life.
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Are you feeling a shift within?
Perhaps you’re experiencing uncertainty, looking at the close of your life’s current chapter, or becoming aware of new circumstances arising?
Feeling an internal shift can mean a life change is on the horizon.
And I have some good news…
Change is the impetus that helps us grow, so we may remember who we truly are.
According to researchers, the body replaces itself with a new set of cells every 7 to 10 years. As our body renews, so does our mind and consciousness.This provides your Self with the opportunity to be reinvented.
When the possibility for evolution presents itself, do you embrace reinvention?
Reinventing yourself is an exciting and powerful way to embody the natural changes that occur throughout life.
If you’re hesitant to embrace reinvention, perhaps you’re not sure it’s the right time. Or maybe you’re concerned that change might disrupt the version of your Self that you’ve already worked so hard to create. Reinvention can stir up unexpected questions, like…
Am I ready for a big change?
Is now the time to reinvent myself?
Do I have the courage to take this next step?
Last month’s article, Live With Intention: Become the Highest Version of You, covered setting intentions that transform you. Often when we set intentions, they prompt us to re-evaluate where we are and where we would like to be. Practicing these intentions can lead to reinvention.
Reinvention is all about choosing when and how to take on a meaningful change. It’s consciously deciding to transform areas of your life in ways that reflect your new beliefs. Like a caterpillar to a butterfly, reinventing yourself is an important part of growth.
However, sometimes you don’t recognize when it’s time for this shift to happen. Your body and mind are sending you signals, but you don’t notice them. You become restless, unmotivated and bored. It may be time to shed one skin for another, yet you’re reluctant to take action.
If you’re not sure whether now is the time for your reinvention…
Here are 5 signs to consider. Are you…
1.Comparing yourself to others
You constantly compare yourself to other people and wonder why they seem so much happier than you. If you notice that you’re judging your life, it could be time to shift your outlook and reinvent yourself.
2. Unhappy in the present
You find yourself spending too much time reminiscing on the past or contemplating the future. If you’re unable to stop and appreciate where you are at this moment, it might be a sign that you’re craving change.
3. Striving for perfection
As a Type-A personality, this is a quality that resonates strongly with me. Before I reinvented my Self, I was constantly striving for perfection. Unfortunately, this led me to a significant burnout. If I knew then what I know now, I would have recognized and acted on my perfectionistic characteristics before I imploded and harmed my health.
4. Beating yourself up
You are your biggest critic, and yet you can use that to your advantage. If your mindset is negative, take it as a sign to embrace positive thoughts instead. Reinvention empowers you to look at life from a different perspective.
5. Lacking Inspiration
Life has become frustrating and boring. You are looking for something to motivate you to action. Inspire yourself with a reinvention. A new mindset, a new look or a new space can change the way you view life.
You’ve set intentions to inspire positive change and you’ve identified the signs that it’s time to reinvent yourself. Yet, you’re still uncertain about what to do…
Take a moment to complete this evaluation. Rate each of the following with a score of 1-10 (1 is least satisfied; 10 is most satisfied):
Step 1) Ask yourself how you currently feel about each area of your life (rate below).
Step 2) Ask yourself what number you’d like to see in these same areas (rate below).
Acknowledge your results. Where do you see the greatest discrepancies between where you are and where you would like to be? Do you strive for a 10 in all areas, or do you just choose to work on a few?
This evaluation is a helpful resource for determining what areas you would like to reinvent. As a bonus, click here now to claim your FREE Guide: Reinvent Yourself: Embrace Who You Truly Are to assist you with identifying your next steps for action.
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Regardless of where you are in life, take the time to notice the signs that are telling you to make a change. At any point in your journey through life, you can initiate reinvention.
No matter how successful you are, you may feel a stirring within and a desire for change.
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You wish to make the most of this life.
You desire to be the best version of your self.
As a high-achieving woman you’re constantly striving for greater success. You seek to evolve, while applying what you’ve learned from your past to the present moment.
You work hard – in your career, with your family, on your self. You intend to accomplish whatever you put your mind to.
Yet when you’ve been highly driven throughout your life, it’s not unusual to begin experiencing a nagging feeling that something’s missing. Maybe you’re becoming aware that you can uplevel this current version of your self.
So what needs to change? How do you know what will bring out the best in you?
First, acknowledge that the highest version of your self is already within you. It is your most authentic self.
How do you know what path will guide you to become the highest version of your self?
When you choose to live an intentional life, you align with your most authentic self and reveal the highest version of you.
In my previous article, I explained how committing to a daily intention can boost your energy and drive. Today we illustrate how to harness lifelong energy and drive by living intentionally and becoming authentically you.
What is living an intentional life?
Living an intentional life means to be aware of your calling and make decisions that further it. You choose intentions that resonate with you and apply them to your life.
Intentional living is about choosing what kind of person you want to be and then holding yourself to those criteria. It’s the opposite of living life by default, instead you deliberately choose actions based on intentions you’ve set.
How to take action and evolve
Begin living intentionally by consciously reminding your self of who you want to become. You might be making a big change or merely a small shift in your life.
Intentional change could be:
- Ethical – your philosophies, the way you view the world
- Financial – advancement in your career, improvement in your relationship with money
- Personal – how you prioritize yourself physically, mentally, emotionally, and spiritually
- Interrelational – personal relationships, how you show up socially
Your choices are what determine the direction of your life. Making a choice with intention will begin a powerful evolution to become the highest version of your self—the authentic you.
Take a moment to envision this highest version of your self. Now hold that vision and begin to create intention around it. Here’s how…
5 Tips for creating powerful intentions
1.Identify your Values
Take the time to evaluate what is important to you. Then, prioritize and align actions that will best serve you. Identifying your values will help you make decisions based on your own moral compass.
2. Find supporting habits
Choosing to live an intentional life is much simpler when your daily habits honor your intentions. Pick one or two effective actions that support the intention you have in mind. Repeat them daily so they become automatic with consistency.
3. Control your impulses
Impulsive actions tend to lead us in the wrong direction, they’re not intentional. They are decisions that have not been carefully considered. When you’re feeling impulsive, take a moment to come back to your values. Take a breath, and evaluate your choices before taking action.
4. Use role models
Who inspires you and why? Holding this vision of your evolved self will be more clear with a specific role model. Different role models serve me for different areas of my life. When I’m uncertain about my next choice, I’ll ask myself “What would my role model do?” Embodying their qualities will help you navigate your path.
5. Evaluate your progress
Take a look at how far you’ve come! Yes, you want to be the highest version of you, and it’s a work in progress. Praise your accomplishments and learn from your mistakes. Self-evaluation will help refocus your intentions.
Take time to review these 5 tips and apply them to your own life. Intentional living can transform your calling from dream to reality. To help you get started living an intentional life, click here to claim your FREE Guide: Evolve With Intention: Become the Highest Version of You.
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Getting out of bed can be a challenge some days. Maybe your mattress is too inviting or maybe you just don’t have the impetus to get moving. But is this happening more often than you’d like?
Are you waking up most mornings thinking, ugh, do I really have to get up and face this day?
Take a moment right now and remember a morning when you couldn’t wait to begin your day. What was your motivation? Were you starting a new job? Traveling someplace new? What was your reason for jumping out of bed with energy and enthusiasm?
Have you ever wondered what it would take to experience this excitement more often?
Here’s how you can access this feeling through a simple daily intention.
What is an intention?
An intention is a guiding principle for how you want to be in the world. A clear intention will bring purpose to all areas of your life; it will guide you to pay attention to what’s important in work, family, faith, and more. Owning an intention will bring your head and heart into alignment.
When to use an intention
Your intention can be changed daily or used over an extended period of time. A daily intention will set the mood for your day. A long term intention will set the tone for who you want to become. However you choose to use intentions, they will help you align your actions with your goals.
Try not to confuse intentions with goal setting
An intention is the driving force behind the action, whereas a goal is the outcome of the action. You set an intention based on how you want to feel, the overall mindset you want to maintain with your actions. When you focus on your authentic purpose behind an action, your values are reflected through your intention.
Intentions keep you in the present moment and are a reminder of how you want to show up in life.
Examples of intentions:
- Finishing a project: If you’re like me, you probably have many projects on your plate. Sometimes a project becomes more of a chore, and you can’t wait to cross it off your list. When you set the intention to complete this type of project, you feel the sense of accomplishment this will evoke.
- Embracing change: It can be a challenge to start something new or shift your direction. That’s where your intention comes into play. Focus on how it will feel to have the outcome you desire and you will find yourself anticipating what’s next.
- Treating yourself with greater compassion: Successful, high-achieving women can have a tendency to be hard on themselves. I understand how that happens. You can transform this by setting an intention to notice when you’re beating yourself up or withholding self-care, and then taking steps to nurture yourself instead.
- Rebalancing your commitments: Sometimes we need to reevaluate our priorities. Realizing this and setting an intention to change can provide greater fulfillment and re-energize you.
How an intention creates energy
Let’s revisit that memory of a day when you felt energetic and enthusiastic to start your day. Focus on what your intention was that morning. To experience something new? To spend extra time with a loved one? To make a new business connection? This intention is what sparked the motivation to pursue the action you were excited about. The intention created your focus and drive for the day. Finding the intention behind the action and continually nourishing it will lift your mental and physical energy.
3 ways to experience this energy of intention
1. Being more focused
Maybe you’re a morning person and can’t wait to get up and start your routine. However, around midday you begin to feel sluggish. You can’t remember why you woke up so early and you’re ready for a nap. When you have an intention, you will have the dedication to remain focused on your goal. Be conscious of your intention(s) and you’ll be surprised by how your body responds.
2. Moving forward with greater ease
Having that initial reason to start your day can be a challenge. Setting intentions will encourage you to work on your goals. Since intentions are based on your values, the intention will align with the energy you want to put out in the world. No matter how big or small the intention is, it will ignite a fire to carry this plan out!
3. Enjoying increased happiness
Your mood can wane throughout the day, yet when you set an intention, you remain more uplifted. Having an intention that aligns with your core values can set an overall tone for a happier, more fulfilling day.
Quick tips to build energy with your intention
- Focus on one of your core values
- Repeat affirmations aloud
If it’s energy you need in the morning, it can be as simple as setting an intention. By creating an intention that is aligned with your values, you increase your drive and focus.
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Click here now to claim your free gift of 20 of My Favorite Affirmations. Then select an affirmation that resonates with you and your intention. Say this affirmation aloud and notice how you remain focused on your intention.
May your intentions evoke new energy in your life!