2020 Life Lessons: Harvesting Gold From a Crazy Year (You’ve Made It To the End!)

Wow, what a crazy year 2020 has been!

If you told me last December what would happen this year, I might not have believed you. 

A pandemic? Mandated quarantine? Business shutdowns?

I would have sooner believed you were describing the plot of an upcoming sci-fi movie about the end of the world!

But, all of this has happened. 

2020 presented new challenges and many of us felt like we were barely staying afloat with all the sudden changes. A CDC report showed that the number of adults who reported experiencing anxiety or depression (31%) had tripled since last year. Things weren’t looking so good for us.

Yet, we prevailed. 

We’ve made it to the end of 2020. And looking back at all that has happened, I see golden nuggets of wisdom worth harvesting.

We’ve made it to the end of 2020. And looking back at all that has happened, I see golden nuggets of wisdom worth harvesting. Click To Tweet

Wisdom that teaches us how to live a more meaningful life rich in love and compassion. Lessons that remind us of the importance of self-love and self-care. And trials that encourage making YOU and YOUR well-being a top priority.

Here are some lessons we can glean from 2020…

5 Life Lessons from 2020 on Self-Love, Self-Care, and Self-Compassion 

#1 Socializing with your loved ones this year needed a little creativity

Fitting socialization into your life during quarantine has been tricky.

Non-essential businesses were closed. You couldn’t meet up with friends. No large crowds. Stay 6 feet apart. And no hugging…

Human connection is built into our DNA. And that’s why I encourage physical distancing. Not social distancing. Because support systems — surrounding yourself with people who love and uplift you — is also a way to express love to yourself.

But what can you do when there’s a stay-at-home order in effect?

You get creative. You can’t meet up with friends for coffee, however you can schedule a video call and spend more time with family at home. I had virtual dates with my girlfriends, complete with appetizers and bubbly! 

How about you? How did you get creative with keeping your relationships strong? Share it in the comments below!

#2 This year, it sometimes felt like everything was taking a wrong turn. Don’t let your thoughts hold your back too. 

Your mind is more powerful than you think.

Ever hear about self-fulfilling prophecies?

It happens when reality unfolds the way you predict it will. For example, if you believe you will nail that Zoom presentation for work, you are more likely to succeed.

However, if you think you’re unworthy of love, you might engage in self-sabotaging behavior, like substance abuse and social withdrawal.

There is a powerful connection between your mind and body. Your thoughts will often influence how you behave.

And so, if you struggle with self-limiting phrases, like…

  • I’m unworthy of love. Nobody, not even myself, can love me.
  • I’ll never have balance in life.
  • Nobody will ever want to help me. They’ll always say no.

. . . Then it’s time to reverse that script in your head.

Using tips like creating a list of your strengths and positive visualization — vividly imagine yourself going through the motions it takes to succeed — can help you feel empowered again. More importantly, telling yourself that you are worthy of love is one of the most important steps to loving yourself.

You are never a victim of your circumstances.

You will always be at power to change what you can and create a better self-fulfilling prophecy for yourself.

#3 Put your phone down already! (Obsessing over the media isn’t doing you any good) 

It was challenging to break away from the media this year. We were so plugged in, anxiously anticipating the next COVID-19 development. Then there were months of social unrest following the racial injustices committed against our black communities.

But there’s also a cost to scrolling through the latest headlines:

  • Anxiety
  • Pessimism
  • Stress
  • Depression

If this is the case for you, it may be time to unplug.

While helping others is important, advocating for YOUR well-being is also essential.

My favorite ways to unplug?

Go on a digital detox, and unless it’s for work, no screen time. Return to nature. Spend time with my family at home. And shift my focus to loving and empowering myself through regular self-care.

#4 This year demanded so much from you. Did you remember to fill your cup?  

Raise your hand if you felt pulled in every direction this year.

As a high-performing woman, you want to be everything to everyone — a perfect mother, career woman, wife, community leader, and more. 

As a recovering perfectionist, I get it.

But after spending years feeling burned out and coping with fibromyalgia, I realize the best thing I can do is be the most loving caregiver to me.

You might think that’s selfish or uncaring. 

But here’s the thing.

You can’t pour from an empty cup.

When you start, your cup is brimming with vitality and inspiration. But each time you give away your time and energy, your cup slowly empties.

Eventually, there’s nothing left to give.

Self-compassion helps keep your cup filled through self-care. By empowering yourself — giving YOU the resources to feel more energy, clarity, and inspiration — you create more opportunities to give to others.

Always fill your cup first.

#5 Self-care is essential but there’s more to it than #selfcaresunday 

Self-care isn’t always what you see or read about on social media.

Scented bubble baths. Spa days. Treating yourself to online shopping sprees.

These things sound nice and feel good, yet that doesn’t mean they’re necessarily self-care.

Self-care is doing what is necessary for your long-term well-being, which can be different for each woman. If you’re struggling financially, for example, then treating yourself to a shopping spree is self-sabotage, not self-care.

See, the reality about self-care is that it’s sometimes hard. Self-care won’t always feel good.

Sometimes tough love is the best form of love you can give yourself.

Getting up early to maintain my morning ritual of exercise, journaling and prayer can sometimes feel like the hardest thing in the world — especially when my cozy bed calls for me.

But I promise you… Stick it out, practice self-care regularly, and you will reap the benefits for years to come.

What Lessons From 2020 Did You Learn?

2020 has changed my life, but it has also taught me much.

By loving myself, I can become a more powerful woman who can better support others.

What about you?

What is one lesson 2020 has taught you? Let me know in the comments below.

To help you put these life lessons on self-care and self-love into action, I offer you a free gift: a list of my favorite holiday self-care practices (which take 15 minutes or less). These small acts of self-love can remind you how important it is to prioritize self-care and your well-being during this special time of year.

Click here to claim your copy of 24 of My Favorite Holiday Self-Care Activities That Take Less Than 15 Minutes.

Wishing you a happy and healthy new year!

This Holiday Season, Restore Your Inner Sanctuary (If It’s Been a While Since Your Last Visit)

During the holiday season last year, we explored how to discover your inner sanctuary.

And with the year we’ve had, retreating to your inner sanctuary may have felt like a great option.

Yet, you may not have gone there as often as you intended.

And I understand.

This year has been hectic. Undergoing a global pandemic with shifting circumstances and now tackling holiday errands has added to the pile on your plate.

So you kept putting off self-care and visits to your inner sanctuary. You were busy, and you needed to be there for your family. That’s excusable, right?

This is the pitfall I see so many women fall into… Thinking that your well-being is optional.

Rather, it’s the opposite. Self-care is the pathway to success, abundance, and growth.

If it’s been a while, it’s time to brush the cobwebs from your inner sanctuary and restore it to a temple of peace and reverence.

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But first things first…

What is Your Inner Sanctuary?

Your inner sanctuary is the sacred space within you where you can retreat. 

Only you have access to your sanctuary.

And your inner sanctuary can be whatever you need it to be.

For now, it can be a place of solitude, serenity, and silence. 

It can also shift over time. When you feel like you’re in a rut, your inner sanctuary can also be a destination for inspiration, creativity, and empowerment.

Your inner sanctuary is how you define it, and whatever serves you best throughout your life.

Why Is Your Inner Sanctuary So Important?

2020 confirmed that we can’t always visit an external destination to feel peace.

With businesses closed, you couldn’t retreat to the spa for the afternoon. You might have even needed to postpone your travel plans.

When your external world is affected, the only place you can find relief is your internal world.

You can find sanctuary and peace within yourself.

So, if you’re feeling overwhelmed, anxious, and burned out, you know that you can visit your inner sanctuary to feel centered and revitalized again.

But the thing is, your inner sanctuary serves you best only when you visit it regularly. Otherwise, you may be denying yourself all the benefits it has to offer.

How to Restore Your Sanctuary If You Haven’t Visited It For a While

Last holiday season, we talked about how to discover your sanctuary. But if it’s been a while since you visited it, you may have noticed some things have changed. In this technological age, your mind may feel like it’s hooked to a dopamine drip. You crave constant stimulation, and you find it in television, social media, or your emails.

Rediscovering your inner sanctuary is difficult when your attention is splintered.

So, here’s a meditation for restoring your inner sanctuary to the oasis of peace and inspiration you desire…

#1 Relax Your Senses

Find a quiet room where there’s a comfortable place to sit (be sure to leave your phone in another room and turn off the ringer).

Close your eyes.

Breathe in through your nose slowly to the count of five.

Then exhale slowly through your mouth to the count of ten (let the world around you melt away).

#2 Visualize Your Inner Sanctuary in Disrepair

If it’s been a while since you last visited your inner sanctuary, let its appearance reflect this.

Let’s say your sanctuary is a small cottage in a peaceful meadow. Imagine a thick layer of dust has settled everywhere. Cobwebs accumulated in every corner, and the plant life around you has browned. The sky is overcast, with no sunshine to warm you.

This may feel unsettling. But let this serve as a visual reminder of what happens when you don’t regularly care for yourself.

“Self-care is a practice that warrants active attention to strengthen your well-being,” said Shainna Ali, Ph.D. in Psychology Today. When you put self-care on the back burner, your health suffers — you feel anxious, your muscles ache, and your focus blurs.

When you don’t visit your sanctuary regularly, it also suffers from neglect.

#3 Now, Visualize Your Inner Sanctuary Being Restored

Continue with your deep breathing. Imagine your inner sanctuary being restored with each out-breath.

Slowly, the sun peeks from behind the clouds. The dust lifts from the surfaces. The plants slowly spring to life in vibrant greens, yellows, and pinks. The sound of birds chirping fills the air.

Immerse your senses — sight, sound, touch, taste, and smell — with all the sensations that delight you.

Experience every moment. Feel truly present within your inner sanctuary.

#4 Recognize How This Makes You Feel

As you embrace your senses, tune in to how you feel within your inner sanctuary.

Do you feel safe and at peace? Notice that.

Do you feel clarity and purpose? Notice that.

Do you feel empowered and inspired? Notice that.

Identify the emotions you are feeling and etch them within your heart.

What you’re doing is creating a strong emotional connection to your inner sanctuary. 

When your physical world feels like it’s chaos and you’re pulled in every direction, a strong emotional connection to your inner sanctuary may encourage you to return again and again.

Make Visiting Your Inner Sanctuary Part of Your Self-Care Routine

The beautiful part of your inner sanctuary is that it’s always there when you need it.

But you might take that for granted and not visit as often as you would like.

Remember: your inner sanctuary isn’t solely for when you’re feeling overextended or signs of burnout.

It’s a place you can visit every day, especially during the hectic holiday season.

Just as you would practice self-care every day, make visiting your inner sanctuary a non-negotiable daily practice.

Imagine visiting your inner sanctuary each morning. In this way, before you give yourself away to the world, you explore the world within you.

You’re at peace. You’re centered. And you’re grounded, ready to face the day ahead.

Sometimes the best holiday gifts are the ones that cost nothing at all. That’s why I offer you this free gift: a list of my favorite holiday self-care practices (which take 15 minutes or less). These small acts of self-love can remind you how important it is to prioritize self-care and your well-being during this special time of year.

Click here to claim your copy of 24 of My Favorite Holiday Self-Care Activities That Take Less Than 15 Minutes.

I hope that you use this list to take time for yourself during this holiday season. 

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Taking Time Off For the Holidays? Don’t Forget to Take Time For Yourself

Thinking about scheduling time off from work to enjoy a little self-care for the holidays? 

A staycation to spend your downtime relaxing at home with your family may be the break you desire. Yet, if you’re not mindful of your time,  your staycation can be anything but restful.

You imagine yourself unwinding and enjoying the space, ease, and quiet. Instead, you’re spending more time socializing, spending money, running errands, and completing seasonal tasks. Before you know it, your staycation is over and you hardly feel rested at all!

During a staycation, it feels like you have all the time in the world. But if you’re not careful, you’ll spend all that time and have none leftover for yourself.

If you want to feel well-rested and rejuvenated during this time of the year, take time for yourself first.

Why Caring For Yourself is Crucial, Especially During the Holidays

Your to-do list feels like it’s growing each day, but your days feel shorter than ever (especially after the time change!). 

So what might you do?

You overextend yourself.

You’re busy at every moment — cooking, shopping, cleaning, wrapping gifts, decorating… the list goes on!

But what happens once you overextend yourself? According to Psych Central, you may start experiencing:

  • Headaches and muscle tension
  • Fatigue
  • Appetite changes
  • Disruption in sleep patterns
  • Lack of focus
  • Poor judgment
  • Nervousness or anxiousness
  • Hopelessness
  • Anger

All of these symptoms put you on track to feeling overwhelmed and experiencing signs of burnout!

You heard that right. You take time off to enjoy the holidays and wind up experiencing burnout instead! And the last thing you want for the new year is to feel overwhelmed with life.

The first thing you want to do is create more free time and space in your life during your staycation. If you’re a perfectionist and over-achiever, you might want to do everything yourself. As a recovering perfectionist and over-achiever, I feel you. So, if you’re taking  time off for the holidays, these tips can help you dedicate some of that time to YOU.

Self-Care for the Holidays: Take Time for Yourself (So You Can Feel Rested and Centered During Your Staycation)

#1 Maintain Your Morning Routine

When you’re taking time off, it’s tempting to stay in bed all day.

Now, I’m not saying that you shouldn’t sleep in. Feel free to catch a few extra hours of sleep — you deserve it!

What I am saying is that even when you’re taking time off from work, your morning routine need not take a break. Remember: your morning practices are meant to benefit you. This daily ritual ensures that you give time to YOU before you give it away to others.

Even if it means you’re starting it one or two hours later because you’re sleeping in, stick with it. Your morning routine can keep you grounded and empowered for the day that awaits you.

Some of my favorite practices I do in my morning routine include:

  • Stretching
  • Meditating
  • Journaling my thoughts and emotions
  • Practicing gratitude
  • Applying and diffusing essential oils (aromatherapy does wonders for calming your body and reducing stress)

Doing just these five things helps me start my day feeling invigorated and inspired. And with all the shopping and decorating you might have to do, wouldn’t you want to tackle them feeling empowered?

#2 Gift Yourself the Present Moment

During the holiday season, it can feel like so many things are competing for your attention. You’re putting up holiday decorations, checking people off your gift list, and writing messages in your holiday cards.

Sometimes, you forget that the present moment is HERE and you’re living it right now.

To remind myself to be more mindful of the present moment, I practice sensory self-care. Sensory self-care is tending to your five senses (sight, touch, taste, smell, and hearing). And during the holidays, there are so many special opportunities to give your senses some attention:

  • When it’s feeling chilly, light the fireplace and enjoy your favorite hot drink
  • Run a hot bath and light your favorite scented candle (might I recommend holiday scents of pine or cinnamon?)
  • Drive through neighborhoods while playing holiday tunes and admire how families decorate their homes with Christmas lights
  • Try a new holiday recipe with the family and let the delicious aromas waft through your home

Delighting your senses during the holiday season can make this time of year even more memorable.

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#3 Express Gratitude for Yourself

You’ve worked so hard, and now you’re taking some well-deserved time off.

This staycation is a sign of gratitude for yourself, an acknowledgement of all you have achieved this year.

Nobody will argue that it has been a crazy year.

You’ve gone through so much — a pandemic, social tensions, and now we have political developments to wrap up 2020.

We have ALL been affected. If you felt isolated or fearful during this year, it’s understandable.

Yet, you have made it to the end of the year.

Your hard work, resilience, and commitment to yourself and your family have only empowered you.

And you deserve recognition for that.

And even though it may feel silly, the next time you see yourself in the mirror, tell yourself, “Thank you for all you have done. I appreciate you.”

Reclaim Your Time and Give It To Yourself

During this time of the year, it’s easy to give all our time away, whether to holiday tasks or socializing with others. Instead of feeling centered, you feel like you’re pulled in every direction.

It’s time to stop feeling overwhelmed this holiday season and start feeling well-rested, replenished, and inspired.

This only happens when you set aside time for yourself and use it for self-care and self-love.

If you need a little inspiration for self-care activities that will revitalize you, I offer you a free gift: a list of my favorite holiday self-care practices (which take 15 minutes or less). These small acts of self-love can remind you how important it is to prioritize self-care and your well-being during this special time of year.

Click here to claim your copy of 24 of My Favorite Holiday Self-Care Activities That Take Less Than 15 Minutes.

I hope your holidays are filled with warmth, joy and ease. Take care and happy holidays!

The Secret to Beating Holiday Stress: Break Free from the Superwoman Syndrome

Thanksgiving has passed, but do you still find yourself holding your breath?

The holidays aren’t over. December still holds so much holiday stress and errands…

  • Buying gifts
  • Sending invitations
  • Running errands
  • Decorating your home
  • Wrapping presents

It’s easy to feel overwhelmed!

And if you have Superwoman Syndrome, trying to tackle it all alone, you’re bound to burn out. 

“The pressure of trying to do everything ― plan the perfect holiday, make it home to see your family, say yes to every event, meet those year-end deadlines ― can be enough to send anyone into a tail spin,” said Carolyn Gregoire in the HuffPost. 

Instead of admiring the twinkling lights and enjoying the warmth of friends and family, you’re feeling overwhelmed, anxious, drained and maybe even isolated.

So, Whitney, what can I do?

The secret to staying empowered during the holidays is realizing that you don’t have to do everything yourself. Instead, rely on your support systems.

Here’s why.

How Support Systems Can Bring You Joy During the Holidays

The holidays feel like they should be a time of joy but so much of the time they don’t feel like that… More often, stress and the holidays seem to go hand-in-hand.

Tackling your holiday errands while fulfilling your normal responsibilities stretches you thin.

But when you start loosening your grip on the reigns and relying on the people in your support systems, you may notice…

  • You feel more emotionally supported
  • You lessen the load on your plate and reduce your holiday stress
  • You are more resilient to sickness (helpful during flu season!)
  • You have more time to actually experience joy and ease during the holidays!

But you probably already know how asking for help can help you. So, why don’t you do it?

Could it be the excuses you’re telling yourself?

….I don’t even have enough time to ask… It’s awkward asking for help… They’re too busy and I don’t want to be a bother…

Here’s the thing about support systems. They’re a two-way street! You can ask others for help when you need it, the same way they can ask you for help when they need it.

That’s how powerful bonds that last a lifetime are forged.

And during the holidays, it’s critical to ask for help when you need it if you want to stay empowered. Here are a few ways to lean on your support systems during the holiday season.

3 Tips for Relying on Your Support Systems to Reduce Holiday Stress

#1 Use Teamwork to Tackle Holiday Errands

Although your obligations may increase during the holidays, the number of hours you have in a day remains the same.

Doing everything yourself may result in burnout and you may possibly make yourself sick (the last thing you want during the holiday season!).

Delegating certain tasks to friends and family members can help you stay on top of things. For example, you can…

  • Have your children run errands, like buying groceries and picking up dry cleaning
  • Designate areas of your home to each family member for tidying up
  • Ask your partner to help put up holiday decorations
  • If you’re hosting the holiday party, consider making it a potluck. Each person can contribute to the holiday meal, lessening the prep and cooking you’ll have to do that day.
  • Holding a Secret Santa gift exchange may also reduce the amount of gift shopping and wrapping you’ll have to do!

Lessening the pile on your plate can reduce holiday stress while freeing up more time (and mental bandwidth) to experience joy and intimacy during the holidays.

#2 Be Vulnerable (It’s not as scary as it sounds!)

After this crazy year and now seasonal affective disorder settling in, you might be prone to negative emotions during this time of the year.

Elevated stress, anxiety and overwhelm can make it a struggle just to get out of bed.

So, what might your go-to reaction be?

Bottle it up?

But like putting a lid on a boiling pot, your emotions can tend to rise and may spill over into hopelessness and self-sabotaging behavior.

Being open and vulnerable can help you channel those emotions in a healthy way.

But that’s scary!

Here’s an important thing about your support systems. Choosing the right people to keep close to your heart also means choosing people who love you, support you and uplift you.

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So, if you’re feeling down, reach out.

It doesn’t always have to be your partner. You can bond with a close friend or family member and share how you’re feeling.

You might discover that simply unburdening your emotions can lead to greater clarity, joy and ease.

#3 Have Fun With a Loved One

Finally, just have fun.

Too often, you might associate the holidays with stress and errands so that you forget it’s also a time for relaxing, strengthening bonds and appreciating life.

And you don’t have to wait until the day of the celebration either.

If you’re feeling isolated or just need a break from the daily grind, spend time with your loved ones:

  • Catch up with your friends over a video call
  • Plan a picnic at the park with your partner
  • Schedule a movie night with the family
  • Have a spa day at home with the girls

The holidays can be the perfect opportunity to unwind and introduce a little seasonal joy and self-care into your life.

You’re not alone 

This article is about leaning on your support systems during the holidays.

But you might still be hesitant about asking for help when you need it. Or the thought of sharing your thoughts and emotions with somebody is terrifying.

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What Women Often Forget To Give Thanks For on Thanksgiving…

What a year it has been…

COVID-19. Shutdowns. Job loss. Fear for the health of yourself and your loved ones.

2020 has undoubtedly become a year that many will not forget. 

Thanksgiving is a time to step away for a moment and be grateful — even during this crazy year, there are so many blessings in your life. You have a roof over your head, food in your stomach and love to share with your friends and family. 

But this holiday isn’t solely for praising your loved ones. It’s also a time to give Thanksgiving gratitude to YOU.

Because when you show gratitude to yourself, you…

  • Recognize all your hard work this year
  • Acknowledge the challenges you’ve had to overcome
  • Admire the strength and resilience it took to make it where you are today
  • Remind yourself of the self-worth that resides within you
  • Open yourself to greater abundance that you can share with yourself and your loved ones

Most importantly, each act of self-gratitude is also a message of self-love. You care for and love yourself, even when circumstances become difficult.

And for such a unique year, this special holiday is the perfect opportunity to deliver another message of love to yourself.

This Year Has Been Quite the Ride

With all the challenges mentioned earlier, you may have felt like you were barely keeping your head above water. During the past months, you may have experienced:

  • Feelings of helplessness 
  • Hopelessness
  • Stress
  • Anxiety
  • Depression-like symptoms
  • Heightened fearfulness

With so much uncertainty surrounding the pandemic and shutdowns, it’s understandable why you may have felt like you were grasping a lifeline throughout this year.

Yet, we’re approaching the end of 2020.

This year has undoubtedly tested your strength, patience and resilience. And you may not have realized it, but it is your resilience and self-worth that has empowered you.

So, now you’ve emerged stronger and even more resilient.

This Thanksgiving can offer a reprieve from the challenges you’ve had to overcome. It can also be a reminder to practice self-gratitude. Here are a few tips to embrace the empowered woman you are on this memorable holiday.

How to Give Thanksgiving Gratitude to YOURSELF And Acknowledge All You’ve Achieved This Year

Step #1  Reflect on Your Challenges

Go to a quiet room with a pen and journal. Sit alone with your thoughts and reflect on the past months.

What were they like?

Stressful? Chaotic? Lonely?

Did anything life-changing happen this year?

You could think about the shutdowns. Maybe you or your partner lost your job. Perhaps you had to transition into working from home and home-schooling.

There were so many changes you might have experienced — many you were unprepared for.

Write about them and how they made you feel.

Recognize the challenges you’ve had to face. Instead of trying to bury an uncomfortable memory, you can see it for what it is and admire what you did to overcome it.

Because the fact is that yes, you may have stumbled starting out. But eventually, you slipped into the new normal and adapted to your unique circumstances. You not only cared for those around you, you also tended to your own well-being.

And this leads to the next step.

Step #2  Identify 3 Things You Value About Yourself

Next, reflect on three strengths that helped you overcome the challenges of 2020. Here are some examples of characteristics you might consider adding to your list:

  • Remaining a pillar of strength and patience for your family
  • Your flexibility in adapting to working from home
  • Your incredible work ethic  
  • Your compassion as a mother
  • Sticking to your self-care ritual and showing yourself that you are worthy of love and care
  • Being vulnerable and asking for help when you needed it
  • Understanding the importance of filling your own cup before you fill the cups of those around you

Whatever strengths you feel helped you weather this storm, write them down.

You can get so caught up in the daily grind that you forget these things — especially when constant media updates keep your mind racing with fear and anxiety, drowning out your inner dialogue.

This small practice of writing down your strengths helps to shift your attention to loving yourself and recognizing what makes you empowered and beautiful.

Step #3  Pause

Our monkey minds often keep us jumping from one thought to another. Instead of appreciating who you are and what this special holiday means, your attention might be jumping to the next challenge:

  • To-do lists
  • Holiday decorating
  • Cooking and cleaning
  • Planning get-togethers

“Regardless of what is going on in your head,” said Kellie Edwards, a psychologist, in Psych Central, “The mindful pause can bring on the relaxation response and enable clearer thinking, opening up more choice and restoring a calmer you.” 

Instead of worrying about what has yet to be done, guide your focus back to the present moment. Take a pause and just breathe.

You are here. You are alive in this moment.

And when you’re ready, smile and tell yourself…

I love you and thank you for all you’ve achieved this year.

That’s right.


Because this year hasn’t been easy… yet you were able to summon the resilience and strength to step up and provide for and protect your family.

That deserves recognition.

YOU deserve recognition.

So take a moment to say thank you to yourself and feel it. If it feels awkward at first, keep repeating it to yourself until it feels natural and sinks in.

Step #4  Treat Yourself to Some Gratitude and Self-Love

While it’s nice to receive gifts from others, have you ever considered giving yourself a gift?

A little self-love can be a kind gesture that shows you appreciate yourself for all you’ve achieved this year. And it doesn’t have to be extravagant. 

It could be treating yourself to a pedicure. Or a vase of fresh flowers. Or it could be as small as 30 minutes alone in a warm bubble bath as the winter chill settles in.

This Thanksgiving, take an opportunity to treat yourself.

Because each act of self-love is a message to yourself that you are grateful for all you’ve achieved.

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Experience All the Love, Joy and Ease You Deserve This Thanksgiving Holiday

Thanksgiving is a time of family, appreciation and joy.

While you’re giving away your love and gratitude to your precious loved ones, remember to share some of it with yourself.

Because you deserve it.

This Thanksgiving, I pray that you stay safe, healthy and peaceful. And I also want to thank YOU for doing your part in filling your own cup so you can better support those around you.

Thank you and Happy Thanksgiving!

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